Friday, September 24, 2010

Self Image

So. Tonight was interesting. About a half hour into my shift at work, I got a customer who was brave enough to ask the question that no human being, especially another woman would usually dare to ask.

Her: Are you having a baby?
Me: [stunned silence]
Her: Oh.... well. You're lookin' a little round.
Me: [more. stunned. silence.]

Then, the customer's husband chimes in, and let me tell you, it only gets better from here.

Him: Look at her hips. You have nice hips. You have a boyfriend?
Me: Yes, actually. I do.
Him: Well, if you didn't, just know that I'd get atcha.

WHAT??? Did I dream this conversation? My face turned bright red. I couldn't look up, and I was close to tears.

Kids, I am not one to usually care what other people think about my appearance, but weight has always been a bit if a struggle of mine. Not much, though. I would say about as much as it is for any other reasonable minded woman. It takes up about a millimeter of space in my head among all the other more important things I have to worry about. But I have never been more. offended. in. my. life. I was so offended that I couldn't even get a retort out. I couldn't even muster a feeble "...I could say the same about you..." under my breath towards the terrible assuming woman, because the thing is, she wasn't a spring hen, by any means.

I know that I shouldn't let this bother me, and I should move on from it. I know that I will never see this person again, and that she is probably some stupid idiot who has no idea what is going on in the world around her, but I simply cannot stop thinking about it.

What would you guys do in this situation? Any advice you can offer?

Thanks, loves. Hope everyone is having a good start to your weekends! Back tomorrow with a more uplifting post about my favorite teas and Morgan's favorite mugs :)


  1. we've already talked abut this, and you know how i feel... but i want to point out once more just how beautiful you are!! and on the inside, too. i love you.
    i read this on a poster one time, and it's always stuck with me nomatter how corny i thought the poster was. it went something like:
    'strangers do not say hurtful things because they WANT to hurt you, they say hurtful things because they themselves are hurting inside.'

  2. Thanks, Lynz. I know you of all people would know just what to say to make me feel better about this. <3

  3. this happened to me once and I was MORTIFIED. I was working at a bank with a girl who was very pregnant (7, 8, 9 months along) and a customer was talking to her about her pregnancy, and then said to me "do we have another momma to be back here?" and I turned beat red and said "actually, no." I was so shocked and embarrassed that I didn't know what to do. Who is dumb enough to be so rude?!

  4. Eeep! Totally agree. Quite possibly the most embarrassing thing to ever happen to me. I am sorry you know how I felt in that moment! People can be so terrible sometimes.


    p.s. this might be terrible timing to say this, but the food you cook and post on your blog looks AMAZING. <3


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